I love Pakistan and her people but sometimes they do things that you can’t help but laugh at or slap your own face at. We are a community of brown people who would even point at a mule to say ye aese kiun khara hai? If animals are not exempted from this treatment, how could humans be? They can’t. Some people in our society sound like rishte wali auntiyan all the time, they won’t stop. They will notice you from head to heels and will say unnecessary things that are not their concern, trying to guide you on what is the “right” way to do things because, of course, our clothing is their concern. Now we ladies are all victims of these ruthless attacks of not only body shaming but clothe shaming too. Team Nutright asked a considerate number of young ladies about their struggles with these comments, and we found out some common ones that made us laugh and then cry.
Rang hi acha pehen leti (She could’ve worn a better color)
See; advising someone about what color looks better is always okay but telling them off isn’t; you’re practically insulting someone’s choice. Not everybody likes the same color and sometimes you feel like wearing certain colors that others might find boring and when they don’t like what they see they make a point to shove it in your face. Well, I like looking like a lorikeet, woman!
Aisay tayyar hai jese iski shadi ho (She’s dressed up as if it’s her own wedding)
So, it’s a crime to look good, eh? Apparently yes. There’s a thing known as not overdoing your look, you know per the occasion or place but sometimes even when you are dressed appropriately the phuppi kind women find some excuse to talk behind your back and say stuff like kuri de fashion ni mukday. But always remember ladies; Dress to Impress.
Taangein dekh kar capri pehna karo (Consider your legs before wearing capri pants)
Some ladies like wearing capris or folding their pants up but for some, it’s kinda indigestible to see them trying something out of the ordinary. It’s alright if you don’t accept something someone else wears but seriously our ladies do not know how to keep their opinions to themselves. If they see anyone’s skin exposed and maybe a little bit hair here and there, their parlor services automatically become their concern like has she waxed or anything? Why is she wearing something like that when she has fat legs? Oh, for heaven’s sake, aunty jee! Cut her some slack.
Baazu kidher gaye? (Where did her sleeves go?)
Sleeveless will never be a trend that will become acceptable by all and that’s okay but seriously, if you see someone wearing it then stop being a pervert and stop staring at them, our people don’t do that, instead they think it’s their right to whisper about it to other people that a girl is wearing sleeveless and the most common statement you hear is that maybe kapra kamm parr gaya or they directly body shame you on having some muscles.
Dupatta Na Hogaya, Gale Ka Haar Ho Gaya (Why is your dupatta in your neck?)
It’s an increasing trend that many women wear their dupattas in their neck, and that’s totally their choice. If the lady’s mom doesn’t have an issue, then nobody should either but not everything is everybody’s personal issue. Because apparently, if that girl is slightly chubby, she needs to shield all that fat with her dupatta.
Let everyone say what they want. Own yourself and be who you truly are because you worth it.